I have always heard how protective fathers could be of their daughters---interviewing potential suitors while polishing their shotgun and the like.....but here's something I've learned about being a mom of boys---growing boys----cute boys-----mom's can be pretty darn protective too! I don't like the girl-rillas sniffing around my kiddos so young!
Back in November, I got a call from some pushy little thing named Amanda asking me why I wasn't having a birthday party for Zane because she wanted to come. Whaaaa.....? I informed her that he WAS getting together with some friends, but that we don't do boy-girl parties for 11 year olds. She huffed at me. Yup she did! I asked Zane about her and he said "yeah--she's always watching me when I play football. It bugs me." I told Zane to walk wide circles around that one.
Yesterday, I was doing laundry and removed a letter from my 9 year old Ethan's pocket. It had a pink and orange crayon-drawn heart on the front that said "My Valentine". Then I read it (yeah--privacy--whatever. When they pay their own bills they can have some! Anyway...) It begins by saying YOU ROCK! Then proceeds to some form of questionnaire which appears 'Girl X' has written for and filled out herself.
Favorite Food: Waffles and Salmon (I guess she's moved beyond the mac and cheese stage)
My Hobbies: Dance and Sing
When I Grow up I want to be: A stylist (how does a 9 year old know what the stink a stylist is?)
My favorite Color: Aqua (I guess it is important to know the various shades of blue if you want to be a stylist...)
An Interesting Fact About Me: I like to watch Myth Busters! (not having cable or satellite, I have no idea if a 9 year old should be watching this show....)
My Swimsuit: One piece (I guess I should be taking some comfort in the fact that she doesn't wear a string bikini, but why on earth is she telling my child about her swimwear?!?!)
and finally---outlined in hearts---My Crush: Ethan.
waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!!!!!!!!!
I know my boys are this big now:
But in my mind they're still somewhere closer to this:
and I'm just not ready to lose them to other women yet.
Console me.....please!!!
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Console you I will......
I am so sorry!
We are facing a similiar thing and it really bothers me that a girl writes my little almost 9 year old love letters. c'mon girls, he's mine for at least 9 more years.
We've been discussing the importance of good hygiene and starting to push the daily shower habit......but maybe I'll let the hygiene slide if it will keep the girls away!
PS....myth busters is a good show and the one piece would lead me to believe that she has parents that care a bit about modesty, so don't let that one get to far away!
Okay, I know that doesn't help!
I am so sorry, but it made me laugh. I'm no help with my oldest being 6 and hopefully looking at boys innocently. I just have a boy's name written on papers all over my house. Good luck with this one! Does it only get harder from here?
Oh, I feel for you...I so don't even want to think about that stage with my 2 boys...
Lord help us all.
Sorry I can't console you :(
My oldest is a senior in highschool and has a "real" girlfriend! He spent Super Bowl over at her house and ate dinner over there last night. I am getting a little jealous....he was telling me how great her mom's cooking is! How do you think that feels??? hahahaha
I still have my 12 and 10 year old sons to take care of me though! LOL!
While I can't feel your pain (my children are younger....and girls:-) I will cry on your shoulder with you, or get a little ticked off.....whichever you prefer. And, as the mother of girls, I will try to make sure my girl NEVER huffs at a mother for pete's sake!
HAHAHA Waffles and salmon eh? Hopefully not together!
Myth Busters is a great show on Discovery channel ... or maybe TLC (The Learning Channel). My kids watch it all the time with my husband. It's good ;)
Your boys ARE quite handsome but if MY daughter called your son and humph'd at you (for any reason) I'd kick her toosh! That is a forward girl! The picture of the boys when they were small is too cute ;)
Good luck with this one. Luckily my daughter's have yet to call boys.
I am a Playschool teacher who discovered some "students" kissing under the play structure last year. My heart nearly stopped beating!
I have a very handsome 7 year old boy who appears to have no interest in girls, but I know they have interest in him. Back off girlies -- he's mine!
And, I have a 6 year old daughter with blonde hair, blue eyes and the curviest little legs you've ever seen. I pray constanly...we have her in Taekwondo and her dad's going to teach her to shoot.
God help us all.
Does it start this young? I had no idea...thanks for the warning. Guess I'll get it on both sides- my daughter is almost 3, son 4 mos.
That is too funny! They are such cuties, but they are pretty dang level headed too and have been taught so well by their mom, so I think they'll make good choices and stay away for a while. I know I'll go through this with my little man too! (:
Your boys are getting so handsome! Isn't it sad how fast they grow up? I look at my 14 year old and he will always be a little boy.
It sounds like your are going to be heartbreakers! Tell those girls to just stay away!
Jen
My girls CERTAINLY better not be writing notes to boys like that! Proper girls know to wait for the boy to come to them. :) I can't get over the phone call one. WHAT??? Who does that? And Myth Busters is a science show so atleast she's intelligent. LOL!
Yuck. Why do girls start that business at such a young age? I hope mine won't be one of them. Forget it, if her dad ever catches wind of her pulling those kind of shenanigans, baby girl will be under lock and key.
I can't believe that girl treated you that way. She probably doesn't get in trouble for treating her parents that way, too.
Wow...girls are getting so personal these days. Yesh, when I was 9 it was "Do you like me? Circle Yes or No" When did it become about what kind of bathing suit she was wear at 9?" Wow!
Oh and mythbusters is cool, but with the language and some of the jokes, I would never let a 9 year old watch it.
We love Mythbusters! It's much more cerebral than Hannah Montana, that's for sure. I don't remember any inappropriate jokes or language.
She sounds pretty on the ball. But still. Leave the kid alone. He's got other things to think about. Like Rockband and books. Am I right?
I am just trying to make sure that I be the type of Mom that my kids feel comfortable talking to about this kind of stuff. Kenedy has already told me about a boy who is crushing on her but the boy she thinks is cute is someone else. I was the same way when I was young, crazy crazy!
wait! I never called boys on the phone though, I just liked them from afar! (I did not know if what I said would be misconstrued!)
I feel your pain. I think of Zach as this tiny little boy and here is at at 6 foot and has girls drooling on him. It is so frustrating. Kaitlyn was engaged twice by the time she was 6 but we've somehow managed to make it to 9 without a wedding.
consider yourself consoled....i'm with you on the age-appropriate affection...and under 14 :) is not included in that.....my husband thinks those things are funny and will be a typical guy---how typical :) and tease collin about stuff like that. me, on the other hand, do not think that any teasing whatsoever is in order b/c i would rather NOT encourage such goings on. :)
Ack. Is this what I have to look forward too? Girls are getting too pushy these days. My oldest is 8 and I don't even want him to be thinking anything about girls until he's 17. Or 18. :) It's way too young. It's too bad kids can't just enjoy being a kid.
my fourth grader (girl) is telling me of kids kissing at school. she assured me it wasn't her (whew) but amen; i still view 9-11 year olds as babies. i took the opportunity to talk to her about 'feelings' 'crushes' and choices. i know she's only 9 but i talked to her about kissing being the first choice that could lead to others. i know, big talk for a 9 year old, but i almost want her to hear it from me (sigh) best of luck, and ding dang those boys of yours are handsome!
Um, what?
First, if we didn't get an invite to a party, that meant we didn't get an invite to a party. And when I say "invite" I mean "writen" invitation, not verbal.
Second, we weren't even ALLOWED to talk on the phone to a boy before highschool.
That phone call is not funny. It's rude. I would be seriously upset about that phone call. Heck, I'm upset for you!
The letter is a little forward too. What happened to all the teasing in school when you had a crush on someone? Isn't this stuff supposed to be embarrassing?
Hahaha! Oh my. Just tell them the truth, girls are dumb. I keep telling Emma that boys are dumb and she still agrees, so I guess it sorta works. I always had more guys as friends growing up, maybe suggest they look at girls as the sisters they aren't going to have???
By the way, if I catch Emma writing letters to boys, I'm gonna have words with her!
You wouldn't believe how pushy girls are these days.
But with your boys...who could blame them. When I met your boys I was perfectly comfortable telling my daughter I thought if she chose Ethan Peterson as her husband in 20 years, I would totally approve.
But my girls aren't like that floosie "Amanda" chic you mentioned :)
They are shy about their boy interests and would never dream of writing letters like girl "x" either.
Girl!!! Can we hug each other?? LOL My nine year old got a love letter from his "on and off" girlfriend that he has had since kindergarten. LOL It was a list of all the things she LOVES about him. I know, WHAAAAAAA??? lol
SHE CALLED YOU AND HUFFED???
That just floors me.
Is she 7? Does she have 13 younger brothers and sisters and live in Whittier, CA?
I have 2 stepsons, 15 & 10 & then I have my 2yr old boy, Ethan!
All of them are heartbreakers & I fear for the lives of those girls who break those hearts b/c mama is very protective of her boys!
I'm with ya! I tell my children that romance is something for grown-ups, not something we play about when we are kids.
So far we've avoided it. I think it would be harder if they went to school.
Is this what I have to look forward to in the next several years?
Little girls should not be this forward. If you meet the mom of the one who called your home I would have a little chat with her about her daughter respecting adults boundaries. No invite means no invite. An adults should not have to reiterate this fact to an eleven-year-old. Seriously some kids have no manners.
I actually think the love note is kinda cute and she does seem like a nice little girl.
If these were my boys I would get them to tell me as much about these girls as possible and then lock them in their rooms until they turned 18, or 25...just kidding! (kind of) :D
I will tell you here and now...'til the day I moved from Georgia to Lynchburg, Virgina, to attend Liberty University, I was NOT ALLOWED to call boys. Ever. If I snuck and did it (which I did every now and then) and Mama picked up and heard a male voice, she would say, "I didn't hear the phone ring--that means you called him. HANG UP!"
Embarrassing.
I love that my mother was so hardcore. I'm gonna do the same darn thing with my girls: You are NOT allowed to call boys.
Amen.
yikes! i've got two boys, 4 and 6, and the six year old is already reporting that there are boyfriend/girlfriend pairings in his class......funny how he clams up when i ask if he is involved in one of them
Now. Go buy it right now.
Really, though... Nevan is 10 and in 5th grade and I'm at the school all the time and I get to witness this insanity first hand and let me tell you how I feel about it.
It freaks me out.
Yes. Mild mannered mother miffed more madly mevery minute. Okay, so mevery isn't a word... or if it is, I don't know what it means... but you know my addiction to alliteration.
Here's what I'm more worried about though. ONE YEAR. A full 15 months will pass for this boy between graduation and *dum, dum, dum* the MTC. That one scares me a little more.
It's the cross you have to bear when your kids are that cute!
This post makes me laugh... you see, I was oldest AND only girl. My parents NEVER allowed me to call boys... not until highschool. In fact I couldn't even talk to boys on the phone until after middle school. Obvoiusly un-named girl needs a lesson on proper girl ettiquette. I know it's silly, but I worry about those kinds of girls for my little Quincy. He's such a flirt now, whatever will we do when he's actually TRYING to flirt? I think I'll just end up being one of those mean moms. I feel your pain, to a lesser degree, but it sounds like you have done a great job teaching your boys. That Zane told you it bugs him, that's always good news right? My mom, who has three boys-- only two at home that are in highschool-- would be in heaven to hear words like 'she bugs me.'
Just by the gun. :o)
I love that Zane said "she bugs me". It seems so crazy to me...I don't remember "liking" boys that young!
WOW!! As the mother of an almost 9 year old girl, I can tell you that my daughter and her friends are in no way shape or form interested in boys yet. I am stunned at how bold that littel girl was! Wow wow wow...Last week, a friend of mine informed me that her 5 year old daughter who is in my son's KG class was going to marry my son. oh yeah...the good news, is she is sweet and I like the family...the bad news, like you, it freaks me out that someone will be his main squeeze other than me someday! ACK!
Um, okay, that first girl is Ruuuuuuuudddddddddddeeeeeeeee. Yeah, steer clear of her.
The second? A little weird. Some of our 4th graders have these little survey books so she may have gotten some ideas out of those for the note. Sounds quite creative actually.
I think you are okay until they start using the word "girlfriend"
I'm seriously getting heart palpatations reading this post. I am NOT looking forward to this kind of nonsense.
I'm blown away by the boldness of girls. It just seems so wrong. I can't remember how old I was when I was permitted to call boys but it was sometime in high school. And my mom would have skinned me if I said anything that rude.
Kimba
Mythbusters is great for kids. Full of science experiments that bust alot of urban myths. My eight year old loves it.
And my girls are not allowed to call boys. That's so old fashioned, but I wasn't allowed to call boys until I was sixteen. And I didn't have a phone in my room until I was in college. Amen.
And WHAT are you doing with Marilyn Manson on your playlist? He's a little harsh even for me, but the idea that he's on your playlist makes me want to kiss you.
Yep, I just said that.
Okay I'm a little late on this but just had to share. When my 9yo was in first grade his lunch money kept coming up missing. At first I thought that he just wasn't used to the school's lunch system yet but after about a week of missing lunch money I started to get really irritated. I finally got him to fess up that he was GIVING his lunch money to his best friend. Why you ask? The little girl his best bud was crushin' on liked a different little boy. So the best bud was PAYING her to stay his girlfriend!! The little girl gladly took the money each day and remained little Mason's girlfriend BUT she proclaimed to anyone who would listen to her that she REALLY loved Noah!! Who just so happens to be my nephew. My little guy was financing this whole deal!! LOL I just about died laughing. Then I went in my room and cried. Because... well my son had friends and cousins with girlfriends? This is first grade nowadays? I never told any of the other mommies because I knew they would die of embarresment. I also told my son to stay away from that little girl!!
LOL....oh, the puppy love years. Aren't they the best? 'er...um...yeah....lol.
I was watching a little series on PBS on Sunday...I can't remember what it was called, but it was set in the early 1900's I think, when things were so proper. The girl was 17, and the boy a bit older. He cut a lock of her hair to keep. The 9 year old sister was a witness of the deed.
When the 9 year old told the mother and the oldest sister, the response was, "Don't you think he would have declared his intentions with her by now if he had done such an intimate thing? She (the 17 year old) should never have allowed such a thing unless he was open with his intentions."
Times have changed...times have a changed! After taking the lock of hair, the young man came back the next day to tell the family he was never going to see them again!
Okay, maybe times haven't changed so much....
scary. i'm scared! i have no clue what i will do when my little man starts getting the ladies attention. my mama claws will come out, i know! yeah, get the shot gun :)
Pushy Amanda shouldn't be allowed to speak on the phone with those manners. Myth busters is a good show. I like it. And would take comfort in the fact that she likes it. HOWEVER. I wouldn't be ready yet either. I'm thinking it's going to begin here soon though.
I can't believe that little girls call so much now. I was never allowed to call boys growing up, and I don't plan to let my girls do it either. I can tell that Carson (age 9) gets irritated when girls call him when he's trying to play the Wii or doing something else really cool that doesn't involve thinking about girls.
LOL.....I haven't had to deal with this yet. Whew! And myth busters is a cool show for a 9 yr old.
I have girls, but I still don't know what's worse--boys calling my girls, (Which only happens with Hannah because her best friend is a boy) or "more mature" girls calling boys. My sister had issues with a skanky girl haunting her 13 year old. It's scary! How do you expect your hormone ridden boy to resist girls throwing themselves at him?!
I guess that's what you get for raising such awesome, handsome, generous, kind, fun-loving boys. The girls would be crazy not to notice. I'm with you though on the time frame. Hold off girls...these boys have gotta be momma's boys for many years yet.
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