I don't really keep "tabs" per say, but I often run into an old friend or acquaintance who tells me what so and so ex-boyfriend is up to. I'm not sure about you--but those updates always leave me feeling pretty thrilled with my life! (kind of like reading the tabloid headlines in the grocery store check out line....)
For example, one ex-boyfriend married a good friend of mine. They now live in New York while he attends art school at NYU. Considering he was an 'artist' when I was dating him.... I think he's been an "art student" for about 17 years now! The role of a starving artists wife is not one that I think I could be very supportive in. I also wouldn't want to walk around New York City afraid to get mugged all the time. I'm a city wimp!(*since first posting this I have managed to get in contact with above mentioned good friend and want to tell her that I think she is amazing and would not want her to be offended in any way. Unlike me, she is very brave, and she has always been very supportive of her husband's ambitions. Love you Tina!)
Another serious boyfriend got married just days before I did. He lives the life of a successful accountant in Southern California. Maybe not so bad--but I'm not that into numbers, and I'm really not that into Southern California (sorry Elizabeth and Kamee--my SoCal buddies!!!)
A third boyfriend is now a seminary (religious instruction) teacher. It's weird enough to think that I kissed a seminary teacher, so I bet it would be really weird to be married to one. Apparently he's also a few pounds heavier then when I was going out with him.....then again so am I, so we won't hold that one against him! He always did have the most gorgeous eyes though.
Finally there's this one--the only one a google image was available of.
I know the picture is tiny, but in high school he looked JUST like American Idol's Blake Lewis mixed with TV chef Jamie Oliver
Anyway, this was THE GUY. My first love. We dated off and on for around three and a half years. And by high school standards, that's practically FOREVER, right?! He was brilliantly smart, but an underachiever. He was the lead singer in a rock band that idolized The Cure. He was the kind that drew attention to himself wherever we went, and whom everyone and their dog knew. He had perfect hair--all the time. To a teenager (who at one time had earrings everywhere, wore combat boots with her dresses, and had blue stripes in her hair, by the way!)--that all that seemed very glamorous.
Fast forward 15 years and he is STILL in a rock band. They've released several CDs and are actually really good. He was in an "open marriage" for about 10 years to a financially-blessed woman, they traveled the globe, and then divorced. As far as I've pieced together, he's had 3 different children with 3 different women, and his current girlfriend is 10 years younger than him (lucky guy?!). He is one of the heads of "Idahoans for Obama" here--and so between that and the singing, I see him quite frequently on television and hear about him on the club scene. We ended our "relationship" as friends, and I actually kept in touch with him from time to time until about 5 years ago when I realized we had just become waaaaaay different people. Pretty sure he felt the same.
And when I think about trading my rather conservative, religious, happily-married, homeschooling mom, house decoratin', to bed by 11:45 kind of life in for that of the wife (or girlfriend) of a *rockstar* -- I have to laugh. Out loud. Really hard. ( and if by some freak chance you ever come upon this J.D.--I hold nothing against you. You were always such a blast...but I'm sure you'd have a good laugh over being attatched to a Mary Poppins-esque kind of girl like me too!~)
Except by making more good choices than bad, and by turning my life over to One who knows more than I do--I have no idea how I got to where I am. I'm just so glad I'm here. ( I LOVE you Brad!--you're a rockstar in my book!).
Now, let's be honest and get talking--what are all YOUR old boyfriends doing?!?! (seriously--even if you're just passing through and have never commented before, but know about your ex-boyfriend--my enquiring mind wants to know!)
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hoestly? i've searched for a few on facebook (found one) and googled a few others. One (was when I googled hima few years ago) was a grad student somewhere back East. Another I've foudn on his mission website...he's the one that I broke his heart...
i think that like most people, we all like to think of the "what if's" in life. (usually when its rough in the life that we're in)
i'm pretty sure that all my former flings are extrememly happy in their current lives, so i have no interest in intruding in them...though I do wonder what is going on in theirs (i also kind of scrounge around collge friends websites to see if i can find the -ex's) not many can remain anonoymous in this day and age.
YIKES! i hope that none of them try and find me....i wonder what they think?!?!
yousers! now you've made me curious!
Tamie,
i've never thought of anyone trying to look for ME before. I think my name is generic enough that I'm pretty hard to find. You've also given me lots of ideas for tracking people down if I so feel inclined :). Never thought about looking at the mission webpages before!--though that would only work for one -ex in my situation.
That's crazy! Wow, what a picture of how far you've come and where you might have been... namely, one of many women with one of his many kids. Very, very weird. Maturity looks better and better, doesn't it?
The one boy I ever felt "serious" about before my husband ended up being a pilot in the military, gone for ages at a time. It all sounded so romantic and adventurous back then, but knowing myself better now, I'd say that would have been MISERABLE. And not only that, he was very "pilot-y." I'm not all that taken with cocky fellows anymore.
LOL! So funny. My exes....hmmmm..One has been on A&E's Intervention, he's gay, HIV positive, and a meth addict. (Glad that one didn't stick!) Another is married, has 4 girls and lives in SLC. (Much more stable, but I definitly made the right choice with Jarom.) Another has been in jail for trying to rob a convience store. (Yet another keeper.) Oh man, I really did good for myself! I would love to know how all the others are doing. There were a few great guys amidst the idiots.
Elena!--
I'd say Jarom was the keeper! I didn't think you'd even play along here because I assumed Jarom was the ONLY one! I know you guys knew and dated eachother for forever--guess I didn't know there were some psychos in between :)!
♥ Okay I checked on myspace for one and seriously blech! I'm sure he's been in jail and all sorts of mischief! LOOSER... I dont even remember the last names of some! I know it's terrible but definately a road I'm SOOO glad I didn't take!
Ok, so before I commented I did a little Google search myself and I will say that "the one that got away" is doing just fine. He is an animator and video game illustrator out in California and is married. He is the only one that I look back at and wonder "what if?" I certainly know that God led me to my sweetie of a husband, and he is an awesome man. I guess I am glad to know that the other turned out ok and isn't sleepin' a hangover off somewhere.
Sheesh, Jennifer, you brought up some memories with this one! All good though, so don't worry. The detective work was fun!
blue hair huh? and combat boots? Oh how we change.
I do keep in touch with one. He's as handsome as ever. Married to a bombshell who treats him really well. Has two beautiful kids. He's a great provider and hard worker. Aaahhhhh. Now you've got me thinking the "what if's". Oh wait! I am the "what if". LOL Steve was my only boyfriend and the "bombshell" was just to make you think I wasn't talking about me. Who would call themsleves a "bombshell?" :-)
Lee Ann- You are SUCH a crack up! And you are a bombshell!! :)
I only had one worth mentioning...he still lives in the area and is a friend of ours...I married my very best friend and we were highschool sweethearts...not much to talk about in-between.
this post sure got me to thinking though :o) funny...where are they now?
~simply~
Sissy and Stork--
Glad I made ya'al think. I can tell you're both very happy with your lot--so a little "what if-ing" isn't so bad :)!
LeeAnn--
I was feeling really bad for Steve for a few seconds till I realized you were talking about him! Too funny :)! You're pretty bombshelly!
Loved your SoCal comment! Maybe people just don't understand the appeal unless they are native SoCalers. I am really missing my homestate this time of year..sunny skies, warm salty beaches, 80 degree weather...sigh. Oh to be in Sunny California!
I actually saw an old flame on MySpace. He sure looked diffrent..heavier. Bartending in the Disneyland Hotel. When I was with him he was an acting major but has since changed it to History...good for him!
Love, Elizabeth
Okay, I have been hiding in a closet because I had no idea Blake Lewis had a cd! Now, for the boyfriend stuff...my only other serious boyfriend, besides the one I married, was also a rocker...drummer to be exact...who is now a minister! What a fun read!
Yes. I have secretly looked some up on Facebook, and googled them.
Oh dear. Bit sad when you see them overweight and bald. (Not all.)(Don't get the wrong impression - there weren't that many!)
I went out with the coolest guy in highschool. Hair like Howard Jones, American parents, was in a band, drove a car. Big thing for a girl like me at a country school. We went to the movies and saw Rambo on our first date. I loved it.
I've exchanged a few emails with him over the past few years. Lives in Canberra (Australia's capital) and is in a highpowered job. He and his wife have adopted several Ethiopian children.
I am happy where I am - just like you.
Oh my, Jennifer, you won't believe it. I told you I looked said boy up...what I didn't tell you was that he had a blog and that I commented. He EMAILED me. I am laughing as I type this...I never even thought he would care that I found him.
Yes, Emily and I met at our old jobs. Neither of us works there anymore. She is as fun as she sounds!
So, thanks for helping me connect with an old friend. Thanks for making me curious enough to look. Thanks for loving my cobwebs.
I think of a couple of my ex-boyfriends occassionally...but I haven't heard of or from any of them in a few years.
One I know is married and has at least 3 children...his dad is a well-known retired pastor, and I found LOTS of references to the father, but couldn't find anything on the son and his family.
I can't find any of the rest of them...will have to look some more! What a fun trip down memory lane!
Jenny--
Glad to know you have old boyfriends in Australia too :)!--Howard Jones hair--so hip!
Sissy--
I take no responsibility for any re-kindled "friendships" :)!
Laura,
Happy to take you down memory lane girl! I think it would be hard to a pastor's daughter-in-law--if that's any help ;).
oh yeah--enough comment padding on my end already--but I am really having a blast with this post. Think I'll leave it up yet another day....
Oh UG! I try not to think about old BF's. I think one of them is gay... but I could have figured that out when he knew (and sang) all the songs to the Wedding Singer in the theature. Hmmmmmmm.
no no no, not going there. THank God for unanswered prayers.
11:45pm, really? You're wild!
UM...I married "THE ONE"...and although my closest guy friend all through high school wasn't my boyfriend, I wished he was at the time. He is now the CEO of a large company that is a household name. Although I have to say, I am so very happy with my husband who is just as successful. I do thank God for those unanswered prayers because HE sent the ONLY one meant for me, and I am blessed beyond measure with a life that exceeds my expectations in every way every day...
I had to come check you out since I am also a Jennifer P. I, too, wore Doc Martens and had colored hair in High School and I actually met The Cure and hung out with them and the opening band The Cranes! (oh my how things change)
I don't keep tabs with boyfriends but the one I gave my heart to still has a piece of it. (despite him breaking my heart) I suppose that is what the Lord is trying to protect us from.
I come from a small town and have heard that he has not gotten married. I have often wondered what my response would be if I saw him. Would my heart pitter patter? Would I see him and wonder what I could have ever felt?
I suppose I have a slim chance of running into him since I live around the world and in a different country than where Chris lives.
Interesting post, enjoyed it. :)
I have nightmares that I am married to my old boyfriend and then I see my real husband in my dream and I get all upset and hate my dream husband (old boyfriend).
I have this dream a few times a year. And I always wake up really happy that I'm married to my husband.
PS I don't know why it's such an awful dream, I didn't want to marry my old boyfriend or anything but he was a really nice guy!
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